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Partner Raises an Issue
When your partner brings up something that's bothering them about you or the relationship, and you shut down feeling like you're the worst person ever.
30-Second Summary
Your partner raising an issue isn't them rejecting you - it's them investing in the relationship. The fact that they're talking to you means they want to fix things together.
Key Insight
When your brain screams "I'm terrible and they're going to leave" - that's RSD hijacking the conversation. Your partner brought up ONE thing, not a verdict on your entire worth.
One Thing To Do
Say: "I want to hear you. Give me a minute to take this in." Then breathe. You don't have to respond perfectly right away.